"So are we done?" Cody asked me over dinner one night a few weeks ago. He wasn't talking about us, just the number of children we were going to bring into our family. Being a parent is the biggest responsibility we have ever taken on in our lives and adding another has made life more complicated, especially with a lack of sleep. Weeks later we are finding ourselves positively giddy with love and exhaustion as everyday tasks such as getting the mail, grocery shopping or visiting grandparents tend to take ridiculously challenging turns. Fortunately, the near breakdowns have happy endings and give me a good laugh.
Like today when Cody forgot something that he needed for his shop class and I had to take it to him. Simple enough huh? Not really after having to hurry and get food in my 2 year old and nurse my infant while preparing it. Then take 2 year old potty while still nursing and getting socks and shoes on her. Then baby poops pants, needs a quick change that turns out to be not so quick because he pees all over me and himself requiring both of us to change. Finally we get out the door and loaded in the car, only to have to run back into the house to get the project we have to take to Cody. UGH! Then to put the icing on the cake, I got pulled over for speeding and luckily only got a warning. Maybe having two sleeping angels in the back helped, couldn't have hurt.
The fog is starting to lift (most likely shock or postpartum)and with each passing day I become a more confident parent of two and cherish every waking moment, even the feedings in the middle of the night and the potty training accidents! So...Are we done? Probably not, we both feel like we want to try for a third eventually, but we are probably going to space it out a bit more. The reminder of how overwhelming the whole experience of bringing a new life to the world is too vivid still and I am not talking necessarily about the pregnancy, labor and delivery because those were the easier parts of the adjustment. I guess the sacrifices and struggles just makes the the good times with our children seem that much sweeter. Especially in hind-sight! 
10 years ago
3 comments:
Isn't motherhood sweet! I love the story of you trying to get out of the house. oh how I can relate.
Don't worry Ridge is still too young to be asking the "are we done yet?" question. Things to get easier and somehow we forget and think that having another is a great idea. I don't know how it works, but it does. :)
I still feel like I can't get out the door with everything. But hang in there things do get easier. Good luck on the potty training.
You'll be a pro in no time. Getting adequate sleep will definitely help. I also found that I had to change my expectations of what I could/should do. ~Candice
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